orange c asked:
My 5 year relationship ended (badly) in December. I am wondering when would be the right time to maybe date again. I am still dealing with some emotional baggage with this last realationship. Would it be best to hold off on seeing anyone new?
My 5 year relationship ended (badly) in December. I am wondering when would be the right time to maybe date again. I am still dealing with some emotional baggage with this last realationship. Would it be best to hold off on seeing anyone new?
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October 27th, 2008 at 9:56 pm
When the baggage is gone and your heart has healed, it is time to move on. It hasn’t even been six months yet—give yourself time. You will know when it feels right.
October 30th, 2008 at 2:02 am
That’s a completely individual situation. With regard to baggage, don’t date while you’re carrying a lot of that around. Consider if you’d want to date someone who had the same issues you currently do. If not, then don’t put that on someone else to deal with.
November 1st, 2008 at 8:10 pm
It’s completely up to you. Sometimes getting involved with someone new can provide a welcome distraction. It’s really all about what you yourself are comfortable with. As long as you’re honest with yourself and with the other person, there’s nothing wrong in venturing out into the new terrain if you feel this is what you want to do.
November 2nd, 2008 at 12:31 am
Nope! You are going to keep dwelling in that wrong relationship when you can be having a good time your self and forgetting about what has happened. I mean is he alone; I dought it. And baby girl take it from experience you are going to feel so much better once you attend to your womanly needs. D!ck always makes everything better!!
November 4th, 2008 at 7:54 pm
Wait until after you’ve dealt with the emotional baggage and are ready to trust again.
November 4th, 2008 at 9:07 pm
Dating and a romantic relationship are two different things!
I would say it is okay to go on “dates” now! BUT I would work through the baggage before starting a “romantic relationship” with anyone! It wouldn’t be fair to him or you!
November 6th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
I started dating the day I signed the divorce papers. Now mind you — I did not go out looking for any type of serious relationship. I made it very clear right from the gate that I just wanted to go out and have fun, not to have anything serious. That will be many years from now, if ever, honestly. But you can’t sit around obsessing about the way you were hurt by this man and think you can’t go to dinner or a movie or whatever with someone. Get out there and have fun!!!
November 10th, 2008 at 2:04 am
If you are looking forward to dating (rather than being turned off), then Today is the day to start. The best way to get over an old relationship is with a new one, or so I’ve heard.
November 12th, 2008 at 2:39 pm
There is no set time ..your heart will know when it’s ready. It will probably happen when you least expect it …the right person will appear out of nowhere !! Good luck !!
November 15th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
You should be open to dating when you want to get something out of it (and you know what that thing is). Like some of the other people I distinguish between just dating and looking for a serious relationship. If it appeals to you to date just for fun then that’s a good time to start doing it. Long term it probably will be more complex. You might not be open to it, so I would have no problem waiting on that one till it feels right (or you meet the right person and it feels right with them).
November 19th, 2008 at 1:38 am
you will know when you are ready, you will just meet that peson, and you will hit it off.
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