Sarah asked:
So, I’m 27 and I’ve not dated much ~ while I’ve had fairly serious friends, I’ve never “officially” had a boyfriend. I think because of my age and my inexperience ~ the very idea of dating doesnt make me giddy or happy, it scares me. I have a lot of friends / family and it’s easier to foster those relationships and to feel the love and support from them than to deal with rejection or even to deal with the relationship. I definately want to get married but it’s also not as difficult now to see myself as a spinster. What are your thoughts?
PS. I’m picky in that my first requirement is that he be saved and go to church, so the bar scene isnt really a good choice for me.
So, I’m 27 and I’ve not dated much ~ while I’ve had fairly serious friends, I’ve never “officially” had a boyfriend. I think because of my age and my inexperience ~ the very idea of dating doesnt make me giddy or happy, it scares me. I have a lot of friends / family and it’s easier to foster those relationships and to feel the love and support from them than to deal with rejection or even to deal with the relationship. I definately want to get married but it’s also not as difficult now to see myself as a spinster. What are your thoughts?
PS. I’m picky in that my first requirement is that he be saved and go to church, so the bar scene isnt really a good choice for me.
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December 18th, 2008 at 3:54 am
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December 19th, 2008 at 11:39 am
Try to find somebody that goes to the same church as you do.
December 19th, 2008 at 9:04 pm
DATING IS SCARY IN THIS DAY AND AGE, BUT WHEN THE RIGHT GUY COMES ALONG YOU WILL WANT TO DATE HIM. CHURCH IS A SPLENDID PLACE TO MEET NICE YOUNG SINGLE GUYS.
December 20th, 2008 at 5:50 am
I’m with you girl. While I’m usually a people-person, I’ve become a bit of a loner, spending my time with Christ.
Just keep in touch with Him and He’ll have your answer. Plus, you know He’s just getting the right guy ready. In the back of your mind, when has anything that you’ve planned for yourself worked out EXACTLY the way you wanted? It’s all according to God’s plan and He is sovereign. Let Him do His work, girl! That’s what I’m doing…and I’m not worrying. I’m trusting God. He knows more than I do.
December 21st, 2008 at 2:22 pm
so you need arranged marriage. consult with your elders.
December 24th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Try to make friends thru your church if they have a young single adult group, or network thru friends. And be honest with any one you date. Let them know what your standards are and what you expect from the start, that way you aviod many pitfalls of dating. Good luck.
December 26th, 2008 at 5:16 am
my advice: don’t be picky. each person is very uniquely different. if you cast out someone based on a judgment on ONE quality you’re limiting yourself SO MUCH. its all about the overall package, about how all that person’s unique qualities merge together to form one amazing person. just remember, part of loving someone its love what you hate about them.
and its very naive to think you’ll find someone who has saved yourself at that age, especailly a male. and not too sound rude in the least, but not having had ANY boyfriend for 27 years is a good reason why it might be hard enough to find someone who actually might want to be serious ABOUT YOU. just open your mind and your heart and all will go naturally.
December 29th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
look for men at church, go on religious outings, join a bible study group for adults, look for a religious organization to join, teach bible school, join online religous groups.
if you cant find anyone there then try looking other places you might like, the library, a local coffe shop etc. many places other than a bar to find a companion. ask your friends to hook you up with a good candidate because they probably would know what you like best.
27 is still young, you obviously are not a loner so you know at least something about maintaining relationships. just try to be yourself and look for a man that respects you and has the same values as you. good luck
December 30th, 2008 at 5:18 am
It may not be difficult to see yourself as a spinster now, but how will it feel 20 years from now? Your friends would be leading their own lives, and family members may not be there, or have families of their own. Loneliness is tough to handle as you grow older. Where to look? Don’t worry about the bars, real people are found in the real world, Church is as good a place to start as any. Make sure you live each day to the fullest, be careful but not cynical, there are a lot of nice guys out there, who’re looking for the same things as you are.