Brian K asked:
I like to work out, train, bike ride, etc. There’s a woman I’d like to get to know better, we always seem to hit it off. It’s important to me that my gal either enjoy fitness or at least appreciate the fact that I do and cheer me on from the sidelines.
If I go on a bike ride to her house, and we go around the block (that’d be 4 country miles), what if she wants to and then finds it’s really hard? Would it help if I ran it while she cycled it with me? What if I was running it and she was still having trouble keeping up on the bike? Would she be deathly embarrassed if I had to slow up so she could keep up?
Suggestions for doing something that’s important to me without taking a big risk of it being a disaster?
I like to work out, train, bike ride, etc. There’s a woman I’d like to get to know better, we always seem to hit it off. It’s important to me that my gal either enjoy fitness or at least appreciate the fact that I do and cheer me on from the sidelines.
If I go on a bike ride to her house, and we go around the block (that’d be 4 country miles), what if she wants to and then finds it’s really hard? Would it help if I ran it while she cycled it with me? What if I was running it and she was still having trouble keeping up on the bike? Would she be deathly embarrassed if I had to slow up so she could keep up?
Suggestions for doing something that’s important to me without taking a big risk of it being a disaster?
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January 2nd, 2009 at 10:04 pm
uhm, is she fat and out of shape????
if not, four measly miles shouldnt kill her…gosh women are not wimps!
January 6th, 2009 at 2:26 am
Maybe try a tandem bike your first time out! This is a great way to create intimacy and work as a team. If she gets a little tired then you can kick in and show her your stuff!
January 6th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
see what she wants to do, and go with that, but if yall like the same thing then pick one that yall both agree on , and do that
Good Luck
January 7th, 2009 at 11:44 am
As far as your bike ride, or physical work out, or whatever is concerned, do not make it a competitive event.
Make it one where you both enjoy it, doing it at a mutually enjoyable pace. You can go 100% when she watches, not when she participates.
I wish you the best of luck. Hope you get your gal.
January 9th, 2009 at 11:18 am
If she’s not used to exercising it will probably be difficult at first and it would be a good idea to slow down for her if she is having problems keeping up. If she is too miserable when doing this, she may not want to do it again, so help her out and make it easy on her until she gets used to it. Also make it fun - don’t make her feel like she’s out cycling with a drill sergeant .
January 11th, 2009 at 8:17 am
Honestly, I don’t think you should run because that could be taken offensively. Perhaps you could just take it easy and ride your bike at a slower pace without making it obvious that you are doing so because she is not ‘up to speed’. Save your high performance training (or whatever you want to call it…lol) for when you are alone. I think that it’s very respectable that you want to do what’s right to make her happy but also try to appreciate the fact that they would make the effort to take part in something that you have a great interest in as well. Who knows, if the chick doesn’t normally work out you may start her on to something new and perhaps find yourself huffing to keep up with her in the future…Good luck and take care but I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
January 13th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
Dude chill… Why dont you just ask her? Ask her if she can handle it… if she says she can, she probably can… if she doesnt know if she can but wants to try, thats huge… give her the chance and if she finds its really hard, let her walk it off with you.
Baby steps. You didnt conquer what you did the minute you started it… and neither will she. But if the drive is there, and if she wants to, she will. Chicks are a lot tougher than you think.
January 15th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
Are you seriously looking for a relationship or just a friend and workout buddy?
The outing you describe does not sound like a date. It sounds like a outing between friends. From what you say you are not yet even friends let alone work out buddies.
I would seriously try talking and finding out what it is she is good at and enjoys doing. I am going to assume that you know that this women does ride bikes on a regular basis or at least jogs?
If you do not know these things then why would you even think that she would find these ideas appealing?
A first date is for the purpose of getting to know someone, getting to know their likes and dislikes what they are into. It is to discover new things about one another that can possibly help the two of you determine if in fact there is a need for a second date and possibly a 3rd , 4th and 5th and maybe a relationship or even a heck of a great friendship.
It is not a outing to see if you are able physically to keep up with one another.
Now if you are SURE that she adores biking an does it a Lot and long distances and you just want a workout hang out buddy or even just a friend for now then yes that would be a nice time. However it does not sound like that is what you know or even what you are seeking.
Why not make it just a general bike outing with a picnic along the way? Why not a walk through a local park with a picnic? or even a park with great scenery that you can sit on a rock and chat? Walking and I am not speaking power walk is a lot more intimate and offers a lot more chance for you to learn about one another.
Most people going on a date are looking for a bit more than a endurance test and work out.
While I am sure there are many very active ladies who would love to do this I seriously do not see it as a great first date.
As said there are many great things that you can do that can involve activity but offer some intimacy and chance to truly learn about one another. Try using those as the first dates and move into the endurance stuff later hen you Know without fault that this is something they are into.
By the way the bike for two idea sounds great if in fact she enjoys biking like that for a second date.
Good Luck