I know this belongs in the Singles & Dating category but I didn’t get much help over there and was hoping that some of you could help me out more…thanks in advance.
I have a date tonight with a woman I don’t know very well. It’s not a blind date, but we haven’t know each other long.
Neither of us smoke, we both drink socially, we’re both fairly ‘preppy’ people, she is not that much of a sports fan, we both love the outdoors, we both like corny movies and neither of us can dance very well. We’re both in our mid-twenties.
I don’t really want to go to a movie on the first date because I want to be able to talk with her and get to know her.
I am going to pick her up at her apartment (and her two girl roommates will be there too). I’m thinking about bringing a solitary Daisy or some flower like that.
I would love any advice you can provide. THANKS!!!!
John - you were the best answer there, but I want a females opinion….no offense to you.
I’m in the Dallas/Fort Worth area…just north of Dallas.
I’m going to give her the flower when i pick her up, I’ll suggest she leaves it behind so she doesn’t have to carry it all night.
I don’t want to do a rose because a rose is too closely related to love.
remember, this is a first date…too early for the love notion.
January 1st, 2009 at 9:24 am
You didn’t like my answer in the Singles section?
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that’s fair…none taken
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I’ll repost my answer to see if anyone agrees with me…
Well my man…first dates are great. You both sound like you are young enough to go some fun things that are rememberable.
I would pick a more appropriate flower….I like a daisy, but I think a carnation would be better…and make it a solitary flower…no bushel or anything like that.
Go to a fun restaurant, like The Melting Pot, Magic Time Machine or something unique. Some place that you both can interact, laugh, and a place that you both can find something to eat.
I would suggest Put-Put golf afterwards…that’s not really a sport but it is something you both can do, regardless of your attire. You can have a few drinks with it as well.
Check your teeth after you eat too…go to the bathroom, wash your mouth and make sure you don’t have anything in your teeth…and don’t anything that has onion or garlic (just in case you can get that first kiss).
After Put-Put…go to a coffee house or all night cafe and chat….make sure you show interest in her, listen to her and ask her specific questions on stuff she has talked about.
Good luck!
January 2nd, 2009 at 9:29 pm
I agree you need to be able to talk on your first date so movies are out. BUT you don’t want to be stuck only talking - awkward silences!!! How about a drink or two then shoot some pool or something like that where you can talk about the game if the conversation starts lacking. And I wouldn’t be to keen on a flower for the first date, dunno why, it just doesn’t feel right to me.
Good luck and have fun!
*And I liked Johns idea about put-put too.
January 3rd, 2009 at 4:05 pm
Take her out to dinner. You can’t ever go wrong with food! Or…depending on where you live and what the temperature is like- you could do a picnic or something cute like that.
Or you could bring her to your house and cook for her, that would be great! You two could watch a movie at your house so you can feel free to talk but it would be on to cover those times of awkward silence.
Good luck!
January 4th, 2009 at 4:38 pm
well ill tell yeah, your right the movie thing is a no for the first date. normally what i do for a first date is go to eat , or for a couple of drinks. some thing like that so you can talk and get to know each other. normally though i meet someone for the first time someplace for a coffee, drink whatever it might be. because you never no if it will work. i think that the flower thingy is kinda lame for the first date, i think i would keep that for down the road a little. to much at first might make her think that you are trying to pull something.
January 7th, 2009 at 8:47 pm
The best first date that I ever had was one that I could never have imagined. There is a restaurant near me that only serves breakfast….at all hours….it is sort of upscale and nice. Anyhow we went there for dinner (breakfast) and then we went to a pool hall and shot some pool. I wasn’t very good at it and he wasn’t either, but we had the best time. We played music on the juke box….got to hear what the other liked and it was really fun. It was a real pool hall, not a bar scene….so we were left to play with out interruption from outsiders.
January 11th, 2009 at 1:32 am
First I have a question. What area are you in? That will make a bit of a difference.
I do like the single flower idea, I would however suggest a single pink rose (Grace, gentility, elegance and refinement. The rose of sweet thoughts.) Since the weather is still nice there you should take her on a picnic. Make sure that you pack foods that you can feed to one another. If the date will be late enough find some where nice that you can watch the sunset together. Since you both drink socially i would suggest a wine bar after your picnic to share a bottle of wine. Before you pick her up go rent a funny movie and if the date is going well ask her if she would like to come back to your place and watch it with you. If it doesn’t go well, you can go home and at least have something to do.
For me, this would be a great first date. Remember that chivalry is not dead. Open doors, pull out her chair and be a perfect gentleman. I hope that you have a great time. Let me know how it goes.
P.S.
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I am at work and had to look up a couple of things for you as well.
January 13th, 2009 at 11:54 am
Actually a movie is usually the best idea for a first date because they can be quite difficult; then take her for a drink or coffee afterwards. Don’t try and get to know her too quickly - there is plenty of time for that . For the second date you could take her for a meal and for the third plan a picnic somewhere with lovely scenery and walks. Oh and at the end of this evening - no matter how well or badly you think things have gone - make a firm arrangement for your second date. It takes more than one date to know if someone is right for you and too many people make theri minds up too quickly.
January 16th, 2009 at 12:14 pm
personally, I like lillies =) does she like daisies? anyway… I like alot of hand holding… putt putt is good but perhaps a walk afterwards, holding hands? =) yes to dinner, not too expensive… good luck…
January 18th, 2009 at 1:35 am
Is there a Dave & Busters around where you could play some video games? Or shoot baskets and ski-ball and have a nice friendly competition? You could eat dinner there, play games, then go back to the bar and chat some more and laugh at eachother playing the games. They have the pool tables there too.
January 19th, 2009 at 11:18 am
i know it sounds corny but I used to take chics to the dallas or ftw zoo on first date. always gave you something to talk about and chics thought it was sweet. no pressure and you can start some physical contact by holding her hand as you walk around. worked like a charm. then later she gets to see the other more aggresive side.
January 22nd, 2009 at 11:34 am
Kool man! both of u hv same choices.I think u shud first take her to dinner n as both of u hv same choices so order the food of her choice n in that 1 dinner try to know her more properly.Also carry some flowers with u.Then later take her for shopping or for a coffee.Good Luck! hf!
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January 25th, 2009 at 11:09 am
If there are any comedy clubs in your area you could take her there. My husband and I sometimes go to a this local place that is a restuarant and an arcade full of games, we enjoy ourselves there. You could take her bowling, roller skating, skiing (if possible), any cool local historical places. Any places where you can look at and drive through a Christmas light setup? Is there anywhere in your area where you can take a horse and buggy ride and just chat. There are so many different things you could do, it just depends on the type of atmosphere you prefer. I hope I gave you some ideas. Good Luck & God Bless!
January 27th, 2009 at 4:02 am
I think John’s answer is perfect!!! Put-put is so much fun, keeps you active, gives you something to talk about and joke about. What a great idea!!!
January 29th, 2009 at 4:03 am
Is there some thing you can go see…an aquarium? an art exhibit? an exhibition of something…in Dallas you should be able to drum up something. This way, you two can talk; but if the conversation stalls, you have something to talk about. You must say at least once during the evening something such as: I like this sculpture because it reminds me of __ from when I was a little boy and my sister would___…something sort of sentimental and sweet.
Totally ignore any advice to take her a flower! First, I’ve had that happen to me…I end up carrying around an ever-more wilting flower. It seemed rude to leave it in the car or dump it. Second, the flower WILL be sacrificed to the He-loves-me, He-loves-me-not challenge by the roommates. Instead, buy two really, really small momentos of your visit to where ever you go…a fridge magnet, a postcard of your favorite painting, etc. One is for you and one if for her. Keep yours on display forever…gallantly say that this will forever more be the magnet that holds your grocery list on the fridge. Then, if all goes well, about 6 months from now…you remind her of the magnet and that first date.
Make sure you know where you are going–or have your gps pre-programmed. It is really neat when a guy knows a great little coffee house just down the street from the exhibit we just went to see…and then knows the perfect restaurant in the same neighborhood. Makes you look like you know what you are doing and cared enough to plan ahead.
If you have even the slightest idea that things are going well by the end of the evening, kiss her.
January 29th, 2009 at 5:30 am
Try this great article:
Getting Ready For A First Date: